heh. My hits have been lagging the past few days, so the title oughta help.
Because I don’t know who googles like crazy, part of this story is not quite true. From what I’ve seen, you can get to my blog by asking google some weird shit. That might be a reflection on what I write about more than it is google’s fault. Anyway…
Last week, I was waiting for the doctor. Next to me was a woman with an adorable little infant and we struck up a conversation. There was no one else in the room and my doctor and her staff are all women, which I imagine made the woman feel at ease and so, in the middle of the conversation, she nonchalantly hiked up her shirt, dug into her bra and started to feed her fussy baby.
Like, in the middle of something I was saying. I struggled to keep the flow of my current pontification over whatever it was I was talking about, which on the best day of my life is difficult to do, but with her suddenly breastfeeding…I stumbled.
Honestly, women breastfeeding in public is high on my agenda of things to fight for. There is nothing wrong with it…it’s not gross or lacking couth…it is natural. New mothers have a hard enough time as it is without being hassled for breastfeeding where and when they can.
Having said that, I find nothing wrong with the use of a blanket for added privacy. This woman could very well use blankets for privacy and since she was in an all female environment, I think she felt a bit more free to feed her baby without worrying about such things. She absolutely was doing nothing wrong and I most certainly wasn’t grossed out, but it was more the shock of it.
My circle of friends tends to contain less married people and certainly less parents than the usual 34 year old would have. Marriage is becoming more common, but I’m not very used to new mothers around me. In relating this story to a friend later on, he said to me “so, you’re not as progressive as you think.” But I disagree. I think the shock came more in that a stranger performed a fairly intimate act without warning. I told my friend, “it would be like me taking off my shoes and socks in the same environment and without warning. It’s not gross, it’s not wrong, but it would be unusual and most people would probably skip a beat in their conversation.”
So, new mothers, keep on truckin’ and feed your baby with confidence. But, if you’re sitting next to a stranger…maybe give the girl a little heads up.